Bullying

I was bullied at school. That was until I had a growth spurt and was bigger than the bullies. I’m now 6”5 and was 6” around 15.

You see bullies in all walks of life; at school, at work, just going about your day to day business.

I have no time for bullies and as I’ve got older will not put up with bullying behaviour. If I see it I will try to intervene

A few things about bullies I have noticed.

One, they will only bully people they perceive to be weaker than them. This is a particularly cowardly trait.

Two, if you challenge them on their behaviour they can’t see that they are bullying. If you go further and ask how they would feel if someone treated them this way they seem confused.

Three, bullying can cause mental health illness in the recipient. This is particularly the case when children bully each other. I have also seen this happen in the work environment.

I’m not sure where I am going with this post as I seem to be stating the obvious above but I guess my point is we all need to say no to bullying as the image states.

Blessed Be.

18 thoughts on “Bullying

  1. An important post and thank you for sharing. I have yet to meet a kind adult who didn’t experience some degree of bullying as a child. That doesn’t make bullying okay. Of course not. But it seems to me that bullies often confuse kindness with weakness, so when they meet a kind person they try to bully them, and, yes, as Chocoviv said, it can happen in the adult world too. I find saying ‘ What do you mean?’ instantly works as an effective response to snarky comments. It stops a bully in their tracks and makes it less likely that the bullying will escalate. It has taken me years to figure this out and I speak as someone who had to leave a job I loved because of bullying. But I hope it helps someone out there.

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    1. I agree. Kindness does often get mistaken for weakness or being submissive. In my experience kind people are some of the strongest individuals you can come across as they have the strength of will and intellect to see other people’s emotions and perspective.

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

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  2. It´s impossible to ask a bully anything, a bully anything. It´s just in their nature. If you ask them they will see you as weak. I was bullied in high school and very harshly. The only instrument I found I had was that I was a crazy son of a b….tch when it got to fistfights. That they respected that then I had to unlearn as an adult. It´s easy for me, once I identify these people that will creep into your mind and try to screw with you, they are your enemy and I constantly see them as such. I don’t care if they try their subtle things, I learned to play a long now. Other bullies with subtle techniques instead of going head on will go through the subtle route make friends of you or try to, and just got to be aware of it and shut them off. But not roughly, take your time since my grandmother said “vengeance his served in cold plate”. Which is what I’m, going to do with my landlord tomorrow. She is renting me illegally, she is overpricing me the two by two square room and I’m the only one paying the internet between four that live there. I spend months seeing other places and slowly moving things out of that room. So with some contacts….renting illegally…she´s done and I will be gone. Then she can pay more or live under a bridge.

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  3. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve seen bullying increase in the workplace over the years and it’s sickening. I applaud you for being one of the few that stands up and says something when someone is being bullied. I’m the same way. I can’t stand seeing it and will stick up for anyone going through it. If more people did that, bullies would be unable to function and would eventually fall in line. I remember reading one post that said “we teach people how to treat us”. By allowing someone to bully us we show them that it’s ok. Until God rids this world of wicked people (Psalms 37:10,11), something I hope and long for, we have to help one another to stamp out bullying.

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  4. Stuart, I just ran across your post and I know how you must have felt. I was bullied during school myself and you make some great points. Bullies are cowards at heart, which is why they only bully those they think are weaker. Also, they mostly bully in groups and catch the victim when he/she is alone. There’s strength in numbers and they cant handle a one-on-one confrontation. I’m glad the bullying stopped once you got older.

    Thank you for posting this.

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